Changes To Ink & Earth

I’d love my readers’ input please!

Ink & Earth has gone neglected a lot these last few months.  I have had a lot going on in my life off the computer, I haven’t had a lot to say, and what I have said has mostly been personal.  Though blogging can be a good outlet for life’s challenges, I’m going to work on keeping the personal stuff personal.  With that being said, I’d like to know what you, my readers, would like to read about here at Ink & Earth.

Comment below to let me know, pretty please.

I have set a goal to post at least once per week.  Some of the things I can post about: home/natural remedies for the family, crafty gift ideas, the topic of Pagan spirituality, rituals / blessings / meditations, tarot spotlights (a weekly card spotlight), gardening (as I learn), my thoughts on world events and news, movie reviews, new music shares, posts about what trends I’ve been following, art shares, and I’m open to other suggestions as well.

Please leave your suggestions and desires for reading materials in the comments below.  Changes will start with the new year.  Until then, happy holidays and have a happy new year!


As The Year Comes To A Close

The leaves have all fallen off the trees.  The days continue to grow shorter and the nights longer.  The gift shopping is all done, and school winter break is quickly approaching.  All signifying the end of the calendar year.  Many changes have happened this year for me and my family.  Starting in November 2013 through December 2014:

- Sean and I got engaged.
– We brought Penny (dog) into our family.
– My sister attended her senior prom and finished high school.
– My sister also came to live with us for a while, to later move out.
– Complications arose with my living situation, and I looked for nearly a year for a place to which we could all to move.
– During our housing desperation, Penny found a new home.
– I got a job outside the home for the first time in 12 years, working at a vet clinic.
– We brought Salem (cat) into our family.
– We found our rental home and moved in.
– Sean and I got married.
– Penny came back.

There were a lot of emotional ups and downs within the year.  It was hard for all of us at times.  But things are settled, and with all the changes comes a new attitude.  Personally, I am more secure and stable than I have been ever before in my life.

I am very pleased with my job and the potential for advancement.  I love working with animals!  It doesn’t feel like work I enjoy it so much.

Also, I am very content with my relationship.  I trust that this one will work out – if I wasn’t, I wouldn’t have married him.  He is my best friend, the one who knows me better than anyone else.  We have had our love tested and strengthened over the last few years, and we know there is no one either of us would rather spend our lives with.

I have the confidence I have never had.  And that confidence has given me what I need to be a better woman, a better mom, and a better friend to those who have stuck with me.

As for what I hope for in 2015 – I hope for more of the same.  The continued stability and happiness we have now as a family, and the comfort of knowing that is the way it will stay.  For me, I’d like to reduce my hours spent on Facebook and other social media.  And I’d like to spend more time face-to-face with those I care about.  I know those are not traditional “resolutions,” but that is because resolutions never have follow-through.

What are some of your highlights of this year and hopes for the coming year?  To answer you can either type a comment or use this opportunity to share a link to your own blog post about it.

Everything To Be Thankful For

Its been well over a month since I updated, and boy do I have some news to share!  Everything I had been wanting happened all at once, and it was one hell of a ride.

In October, Sean and I looked at a few houses, continuing what seemed to be an endless search for a rental.  We looked at a large blue house that had an awful layout and no closets.  We looked at a huge victorian-style home that we were thrilled about, but ended up being rented to someone else.  But then the guy who was managing that huge house said he had something else we could look at if we wanted.  So we looked at this smaller, brown, 3 bedroom house on a busy street in town.  It was okay, but it needed a few repairs for it to be acceptable to Sean and I, and for our family.  We told the manager we what we wanted done, and he assured us it would be done by November 1st.  While we were waiting for him, I had a housing wanted ad up on Craigslist, and I ended up getting a few replies toward the end of October.  Mostly people were asking way too much, but we did come across one that sounded perfect.  We went and looked at it, and it was a large house that had been converted from duplexes.  It had a weird layout, and a very low banister at the top of the stairs, but it was within our price range.  Most likely we would have been approved for the property, but we didn’t apply because we would have had to spend the extra money on supplying our own appliances, and we were pretty sure the brown house would be ready in time.

On Friday, October 31st the house was to be finished.  We had been given the go-ahead to tell our current landlords that we were moving out, but we both still had a weird feeling about it and hadn’t notified anyone.  We weren’t seeing work done from the outside of the house when we drove by, and since we’d been told no so many times, we were afraid we were being messed with.  On Thursday the 30th, work was started.  We were able to go in and look at the progress.  On Friday he let us copy the keys.  And finally on Monday November 3rd we were able to sign our lease, with huge progress made on the repairs.  YES!!!  We started moving on Tuesday with a moving truck and all, and we were all done moving in a little over a week.

In the meantime, while Sean and I knew we were getting close to20141117_074157 finally having our family home together, while we knew we were only a couple steps away from having our dreams come true, we discussed the fact that the only reason we put off getting married was because we couldn’t live together.  So knowing we would be moving in together, we decided to take the plunge and say our “I Dos.”  On the night of October 31st, while the kids were away with their dad for the whole weekend, my sister officiated our vows.  We will have a ceremony for family and friends at a later date.

When the kids got home to the news of our marriage and our new home, they were excited too!

And now, today, we are mostly all settled into our new home.  Our marriage is filed and official, and we are a complete family!  It all happened.  :-)

A Canadian’s View On Our Disrespect Of President Obama’s Presidency


Yes, yes, 1000x YES!!!

Originally posted on The Fifth Column:

America – He’s Your President for Goodness Sake!

By William Thomas

There was a time not so long ago when Americans, regardless of their political stripes, rallied round their president. Once elected, the man who won the White House was no longer viewed as a republican or democrat, but the President of the United States. The oath of office was taken, the wagons were circled around the country’s borders and it was America versus the rest of the world with the president of all the people at the helm.

Suddenly President Barack Obama, with the potential to become an exceptional president has become the glaring exception to that unwritten, patriotic rule.

Four days before President Obama’s inauguration, before he officially took charge of the American government, Rush Limbaugh boasted publicly that he hoped the president would fail. Of course, when the president fails the country flounders. Wishing harm upon…

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Flirting with Committed Men

I read an article recently entitled “Why Your Crush On My Husband Is Not OK.”  After reading the title alone I sorta judged it as an insecure wife who was threatened by some random insignificant bimbo.  But it was shared on Facebook by a friend, and I thought I would go ahead and give it a read-through.  I was surprised by the very valid points that were made, and it opened my eyes to how I may have been perceived when I was single.  Yes, I was overly-flirty at times.  I may have confessed to a crush or feelings for a man or two that was committed, in the past.  In the article, the author asks,

“Why tell a married man that you have a crush on him? What’s the goal?  Do you want a relationship with him?  You realize that means he would have to leave his wife for you, right?  You would be destroying a family.  Are you seeking an affair?  You would be ok with the lies and the deceit of an affair?  You are that immoral and that lustful?  Are you seeking just a web flirtation and a fantasy?  You realize that is still wrong right?  You are aiding in breaking down the trust and commitment of a marriage.  What’s your motivation here?  Why tell a married man you’re interested?”

In my past I really didn’t think all of that through.  I did confess my feelings with a slight amount of hope, I admit.  But I never expected anything to come of it.  I didn’t think through the details of the man keeping that secret from his wife or starting any break-down of trust.  I believed what I was doing was harmless. (By the way, nothing ever came of any of those situations in my life)

Now that I am in what I believe will the the last, longest and most meaningful relationship of my life, I understand the other side of this.  I get it!  Its not about being insecure or threatened.  Its about people’s general lack of consideration and respect for other people.

“Expressing your crush on my husband is disrespectful, not only to me but to the sanctity of our marriage.  …  How classless and immoral do you have to be to not only express your feelings for a man with a wife but to also publicly display that you have no respect for his wife or his marriage?  …  Are you trying to encourage deceit in what is the most sacred of relationships?  Were you thinking he would keep it from me, that you would have a secret friendship, that you would somehow be closer or more important to my husband than I am?”

I don’t think a person who has never had such a strong bond and deep commitment with another, could possibly understand the feeling behind these words.  They are just words until you are in a place where you feel personally attacked by the lack of respect from other people.  I dare compare it to having your home robbed, only with the person you feel closest to rather than belongings.

And then after the feelings have been expressed to this man, and the woman still wants to be friends as if nothing ever happens.  The author has a great answer for that too,

“It’s simply because your morals have already been shown to be questionable and because you cannot be trusted.  Of course I trust my husband but trusting my husband does not mean that you are suddenly deserving of trust or friendship.”

Yet another point I didn’t really understand until recently.  Why would a wife trust a woman who has made her feelings known about her husband?  Its not a matter of being overly paranoid or insecure.  Its a matter of the “crush-er” not having respect for your relationship, and therefore is not friend material.

For so long I really didn’t understand the “jealous wife’s” point of view.  And now I do.  I feel enlightened, and its good to understand now what I was doing wrong all that time.

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