Recently I posted a controversial video on my personal Facebook page about the topic that most people avoid these days: abortion. Generally when I post things of that nature, I get a couple comments, but people generally don’t respond much, and certainly not quite as strongly as the responses I got this time. Mostly I got opposing opinions, and those who agreed with me didn’t dare speak up, they just “liked” my comments. It was a video of an aborted baby still inside the amniotic sac, still alive, responding to touch. Personally, I didn’t intend it to be a “shock video” or something to pull at the heart strings – just more an educational look at what you are losing when you choose to have an abortion. A look at the fact that the fetus is in fact a living human.
Please know that I am fully aware that this is not the way the world works, and that I am stating MY opinion solely. If you are easily offended by this topic or the pro-life cause, tough!
I have always, since I could first understand the concept in its entirety, been strongly opposed to abortion. I grew up an only child, with a mom who cried and prayed to have more children throughout my childhood. She raised me with a very strong appreciation for life, and desire for fertility. I grew up knowing that as a woman, I was not obligated to have children, but I knew my body was built for it. I grew up knowing I would one day have children, and I looked forward to it. I knew I was destined to be a mom, by my own choosing.
During high school I did some research and used abortion as a topic for reports and projects, including art projects. I learned about the many reasons someone may choose an abortion, such as birth defects, health of the fetus, health or age of the mother, lifestyle, finances, parental relationship issues, rape, incest, etc. I was open-minded about it during this period of research and learning.
The turning point for me was when I was approached by one of my high school friends, at age 17, and asked to take her to the clinic to terminate her pregnancy. She went on to tell me that she and her boyfriend knew the risk of pregnancy was there when they had unprotected sex, and they joked that if she got pregnant, they could just get an abortion. In hindsight, I believe it was one of those “it could never happen to us” situations. But cruel irony caught up with them, and that ended up being their actual solution. I lost all respect for the both of them over it. I took her to her appointment, and while she was there I did a lot of soul-searching. I thought over all that I knew, and all that I had experienced while growing up. I knew the world was full of infertile couples dreaming of making a family by adopting. And being a spiritual Pagan, I knew that all life was sacred, and on this Earth for a reason.
That is what made me decide: 99% of abortions are unnecessary. I say 99% because I understand there always exists an exception to every set of circumstances. Extreme situations are the only reasons for this exception, in my opinion. Such as imminent death or extreme deformities to the point of incapacity for the child and no chance at a good life.
As for all the rest, I believe every life is created for a reason, and all the “reasons” for abortion are just weak excuses from weak women. If a woman gets pregnant because either they weren’t responsible enough use birth control or birth control failed, that’s not excuse for an abortion. If a woman gets pregnant from a rape or from incest and just doesn’t want the reminder of that painful event, there are other options such as adoption. If your relationship falls apart and you can’t imagine being a single mother or you can’t afford a baby, abortion is not the answer. If the baby has minor to moderate health issues or birth defects, perhaps the medical community could learn from your child to help others with the same issue, or perhaps he or she will enrich your life beyond your wildest dreams – abortion is not the answer.
Life is beautiful, no matter what the situation. Life is a blessing, a miracle. If you aren’t ready to receive that miracle, or to be a mom, and you want to have control of your body, then BE EDUCATED, USE BIRTH CONTROL, BE RESPONSIBLE. Take responsibility for your own actions, don’t turn to drastic measures to “get rid of” your mistake. Abortion is murder, period. I don’t care if that is a harsh remark to someone who has some guilt over making that choice at some point in their life. I don’t care who I offend with this opinion. You should have chose to be a parent, or adoption – the gift of life and a family.
What I stand for: Pro Responsibility, Pro Education, Pro Birth Control, PRO LIFE
And I will stand by this opinion and this cause until the day I die.